20 Signs that you’ve already succeeded in your early 20’s

I’m just going to say it… Adulting is not easy. There is no guideline or manual and sometimes I feel like I am doing it all wrong. That’s why your twenties can sometimes feel like a completely messy part of your life that you just want to forget. You are experiencing some things that are scary and completely foreign at the same time.  A few days ago I felt completely fed up. I am almost 22, still studying and living with my parents. I found a note a wrote when I was 12 saying in 10 years I want to have my own flat, a cat, be engaged and have a well earning job. The note completely caught me off guard. I am nowhere close to any of those things (except the cat she is the cutest thing ever).

So I wrote down 20 things that made me feel like I’ve succeeded in my early 20’s

  1. You’ve experienced failure and realized it is not the end o f the world. The most important part of failure is the lesson you learned. I felt like such a failure when I decided to change degree’s. Today I feel like it has been the best decision of my life. I am now studying something I am passionate about and that makes all the difference.
  2. You’ve put effort into being a really good friend and apologized and tried to make amends for the times that you were not. This is sometimes the hardest lesson you learn. Realizing that you were wrong and having to say you’re sorry is never easy. You also realize that people you thought you’re going to be lifelong friends with you outgrow. Never try and force a frienship if each start going their separate ways.
  3. You’ve gotten out of bed when it feels like the entire world was against you. For me getting out of bed before 7 is a victory itself. Sometimes you just get those days when it feels like everything and everyone is against you, but you still kept going and that’s what’s important.
  4. You’ve learned not to get frustrated with the small things in life.
  5. You’ve accepted the fact that you’re not perfect… And that is not always easy. We would all like to believe we are perfect.
  6. You’ve stopped apologizing for your feelings. You have come to the realization that you’re going to experience different emotions and sometimes you’re going to want to cry for no apparent reason at all… And you know what IT’S OK
  7. You’ve learned to like whatever you like whether it is cool or not.
  8. You’ve started doing the things you’ve always wanted to instead of just talking about doing them.
  9. You’ve realized that you’re favourite things often don’t involve money. Things like friendship, long meaningful conversations and nature.
  10. You’ve filled more than one coffee loyalty card. This is a big deal… Believe me.
  11. You’ve done something for someone else without posting it on facebook or expecting anything in return.
  12. You’ve learned to say ‘thank you’ .
  13. You’re fine with being in your own company.
  14. You’ve started realizing that not everything on social media is as perfect as it seems.
  15. You’ve spent an entire day in your pajamas, hair in a bun and binge watching series like Friends, Gilmore Girls and Veronica Mars.
  16. You’ve started to appreciate the person in the mirror. You feel comfortable in who you are and don’t feel the need to constantly change your appearance to keep other’s happy.
  17. You feel passionate about things and pursue them.
  18. You’ve learned to say ‘no’ .
  19. You’ve learned to take time for yourself and do things you enjoy.
  20. You’ve loved someone or something.

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8 Comments

  1. Jessica
    February 22, 2017 / 10:09 pm

    Haha I’d like to think I’ve a got most of these down – definitely not all though! Great post I enjoyed reading it x

    • Zaanri
      February 27, 2017 / 3:57 pm

      Thank you so much. Some are much easier than other.

      Xxx
      Zaanri

  2. Harriet
    February 22, 2017 / 10:31 pm

    I love these posts, I’ve still got a couple of years till I get till my 20s but I feel like I’ve worked through a lot of these though and I’m seriously learning how to succeed!

    • Zaanri
      February 27, 2017 / 3:56 pm

      That’s the most important part. All I can say is: Hope your 20’s is a blast.

      Xxx
      Zaanri

  3. February 22, 2017 / 10:37 pm

    This was such an uplifting post! I think your 20’s are so full of doubt and worry that you forget to take stock of what you are actually doing well.

    I happily crossed quite a few of these off so I’m quite proud!

    Really enjoyed this, was a very good read. And here’s to being successful 30 year olds!

    Laura xo

    • Zaanri
      February 27, 2017 / 3:50 pm

      Thank you so much for such a kind comment! Cannot wait to write another one in 10 years time when I am in by 30’s.

      Xxx
      Zaanri

  4. February 22, 2017 / 10:55 pm

    This post is spot one and so true, I love how honest this is, thank you for sharing 🙂

    • Zaanri
      February 27, 2017 / 3:48 pm

      Your 20’s can sometimes be full of doubt and its always fun to look at it from a different perspective.

      Xxx
      Zaanri

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