Personal

20 Signs that you’ve already succeeded in your early 20’s

I’m just going to say it… Adulting is not easy. There is no guideline or manual and sometimes I feel like I am doing it all wrong. That’s why your twenties can sometimes feel like a completely messy part of your life that you just want to forget. You are experiencing some things that are scary and completely foreign at the same time.  A few days ago I felt completely fed up. I am almost 22, still studying and living with my parents. I found a note a wrote when I was 12 saying in 10 years I want to have my own flat, a cat, be engaged and have a well earning job. The note completely caught me off guard. I am nowhere close to any of those things (except the cat she is the cutest thing ever).

So I wrote down 20 things that made me feel like I’ve succeeded in my early 20’s

  1. You’ve experienced failure and realized it is not the end o f the world. The most important part of failure is the lesson you learned. I felt like such a failure when I decided to change degree’s. Today I feel like it has been the best decision of my life. I am now studying something I am passionate about and that makes all the difference.
  2. You’ve put effort into being a really good friend and apologized and tried to make amends for the times that you were not. This is sometimes the hardest lesson you learn. Realizing that you were wrong and having to say you’re sorry is never easy. You also realize that people you thought you’re going to be lifelong friends with you outgrow. Never try and force a frienship if each start going their separate ways.
  3. You’ve gotten out of bed when it feels like the entire world was against you. For me getting out of bed before 7 is a victory itself. Sometimes you just get those days when it feels like everything and everyone is against you, but you still kept going and that’s what’s important.
  4. You’ve learned not to get frustrated with the small things in life.
  5. You’ve accepted the fact that you’re not perfect… And that is not always easy. We would all like to believe we are perfect.
  6. You’ve stopped apologizing for your feelings. You have come to the realization that you’re going to experience different emotions and sometimes you’re going to want to cry for no apparent reason at all… And you know what IT’S OK
  7. You’ve learned to like whatever you like whether it is cool or not.
  8. You’ve started doing the things you’ve always wanted to instead of just talking about doing them.
  9. You’ve realized that you’re favourite things often don’t involve money. Things like friendship, long meaningful conversations and nature.
  10. You’ve filled more than one coffee loyalty card. This is a big deal… Believe me.
  11. You’ve done something for someone else without posting it on facebook or expecting anything in return.
  12. You’ve learned to say ‘thank you’ .
  13. You’re fine with being in your own company.
  14. You’ve started realizing that not everything on social media is as perfect as it seems.
  15. You’ve spent an entire day in your pajamas, hair in a bun and binge watching series like Friends, Gilmore Girls and Veronica Mars.
  16. You’ve started to appreciate the person in the mirror. You feel comfortable in who you are and don’t feel the need to constantly change your appearance to keep other’s happy.
  17. You feel passionate about things and pursue them.
  18. You’ve learned to say ‘no’ .
  19. You’ve learned to take time for yourself and do things you enjoy.
  20. You’ve loved someone or something.

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Fashion

Working as a fashion editor for a week

For years I though the life of a fashion editor is one of the most glamorous jobs. Going to cocktail parties with celebrities, getting free clothes, front row seats at fashion shows and getting to work with famous models. Believe me it is nothing like the Devil Wears Prada.

I had the opportunity to attend the Sarie fashion editors workshop in Cape Town, South Africa. The workshop was hosted by respected fashion editor, Amaria Carstens, who’s been in the industry for more than 10 years. We had the opportunity to hear all her stories and learn all the tricks of the trade. And let me tell you… It is hard work and long hours. We learned about how they cast models, tape shoes in order not to ruin them, steam a dress, create mood boards, style a look, what goes into location scouting and what makes a perfect cover page.

We then had the opportunity to design our own mood board, decide on a look and model.

I decided for my look to go for something classy, feminine yet sexy and daring. Watching the make up artist, photographer, hairdresser and model work is like watching a well oiled machine. They know exactly what work what doesn’t and how it all contributes to the end product. I stood there with my mouth open just staring.

Sarie really spoiled us. The entire time they made sure we were fed with some of the most amazing food and sweet treats, coffee and anything else you could think of.

A big thank you to Amaria and the entire Sarie team. I cannot wait to visit again!

Let me know in the comments if you would like to see the final image and look I created.

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Personal

Why i am not celebrating valentines day today

Monday morning the hot topic on campus was Valentines Day plans. I avoided it until the question was directed at me. Shocked faces stared back at me when I told them that I am not doing anything. I probably won’t even see my boyfriend because of work and deadlines.  So the entire day I had this burning question…Why do we spend so much money going to over crowded restaurants, buying heart shaped chocolates and cards? Shouldn’t we treat everyday like Valentines Day? Or am I just sinister?

On February the 14th we celebrate the legacy of Saint Valentine of Rome. Saint Valentine was a second century priest who was imprisoned for performing wedding ceremonies on soldiers who were forbidden to marry and serving Christians. Legends says that during his imprisonment, Saint Valentine healed the jailers’s daughter and before he was executed wrote her a letter. The letter was signed “Your Valentine”. The celebrations of Saint Valentine did not have any romantic connotations until poetry about “Valentine” in the 14th century.

So the actual story of Valentines day has very little to do with flowers, heart shaped candy, cupid inspired cards and white doves. For me it has everything to do with sacrificial love. It is easy to confess your love when you are handed a dozen red roses or taken to the fanciest restaurant in town. Don’t get me wrong I’m not saying YOU shouldn’t celebrate Valentines Day or going on romantic dates isn’t fun. All I’m saying is,do not have to feel pressured to go out of Valentines Day, sit in a crowded restaurant and spent a fortune on chocolates and flowers. It’s about the little things. The person who comforts you when you’re sad, the person who makes you smile when you had a rough day, the person who supports you.

Do you celebrate Valentines Day? What do you celebrate on Valentines Day?

 

 

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Series & Movies

Shows on my radar in January

We are currently in the golden age of television. There are so many good shows coming out everyday I decided to do a monthly roundup. So if you’re desperate for something new to watch here’s my top 5 for January 2017:

EMERALD CITY

This is a more mature take on the classic Wizard of Oz story. Dorothy is looking for her mother when she get swept up in a horrible storm and transported to a mystical land where the wizard Oz rules the kingdom. She is unaware of the fact that she is about to fulfill a prophecy and change the lives of everyone around her.

LEMONY SNICKET’S A SERIES OF UNFORTUNATE EVENTS

This is the Netflix adaption of the novels by Daniel Handler. When a mysterious fire kills their parents, the Baudelaire children are forced to live with their closest relative (in this series it means the relative living the closest to them) and in this case it is Count Olaf, played by Neil Patrick Harris. Olaf is a terrible actor with his eyes on the children’s fortune. After a failed attempt at stealing their fortune the Baudelaire children set out to elude Count Olaf and find out the mysteries behind their parent’s secret life and mysterious death.

TABOO

Set in the 1814’s taboo follows James Keziah Delaney (played by Tom Hardy) , a man sent to the ends of the earth. He has been accepted as long dead by those who know him. He returns to London from Africa a changed man to inherit what is left of his father’s shipping empire. He wants to rebuild a life for himself, but it is not as easy when his father’s legacy is poisoned with enemies in every corner. James has to navigate complex territories to avoid his own death. A series with laced with conspiracy, murder, betrayal, love and treachery.

THE YOUNG POPE

The Young Pope is a parallel-universe show which can be seen as a mirror for the society we live in today. Lenny Belardo aka Pope Pius XIII , played by Jude Law , is the fictional first American Pope with a disregard for the traditions and an appetite for mischief. This ten episode series tells the story of Lenny Belardo’s controversial life and the beginning of Pius XIII’s pontificate. A complex character, often conflicted in his choices but full of compassion towards the poor.

RIVERDALE

This upcoming American teen drama is based on the character’s from the Archie comics. Riverdale may look like a quiet town but there is danger hidden in the shadows. Archie, Betty, Veronica, Jughead, Josie and their friends explore the small town and weirdness of Riverdale. When the new school year starts and the school golden boy dies tragically nothing feels the same anymore and with the arrival of a new student, Veronica Lodge there is bound to be some kind of trouble and love triangle.

With all of these amazing new shows released, and it’s only January, there is certainly not enough hours in a day.I can’t wait to slowly make my way through watching all of these and chatting to all of you about it. Have you watched any of these shows? What’s your favourite show. Let me know in the comments down below.

 

Xxx

 

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Restaurants

Friendly Stranger Review

As a little girl my dad and I use to go out for breakfast every Sunday. It would be our time during the week where we get to catch up, relax and try a new coffee shop. As I grew up, nothing changed. We still love to try new coffee shops and then rate their coffee, service and breakfast. This weekend we went to the Friendly Stranger in Port Elizabeth,South Africa. Although everything on the menu sounded delicious we ended up with the same order. We tried ‘The Royal’ which is poached eggs on an English muffin with salmon and hollandaise sauce. On the side was some lovely cherry tomatoes and balsamic reduction. The owner convinced us to try their special chutney and oh my goodness… it was probably the best chutney we have ever tried. The only downside was they had no English muffin and served it on ciabatta. I’m not a big ciabatta fan, sometimes it can be a bit hard and dry, but I didn’t mind it at all this time.

At the end of the day Friendly Stranger scored a 4/5. Coffee was flavorful and strong, breakfast was delicious (even if they did not have the English Muffin) and service was good.

Xxx
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